Knowing DARVO

"Why me? Out of everyone, why did they choose me?"If you have asked yourself that question in the wreckage of an abusive relationship, you are not alone. And the answer is not what you fear it is.For years, you may have believed there was something wrong with you. Some invisible flaw that drew a manipulative, controlling, or abusive person straight to you - and made you stay long after you should have walked away. You have replayed it a thousand times, searching yourself for the defect that made you a target.But - there isn't one.You were not chosen because you were weak. You were chosen because you were kind. Empathetic. Loyal.Because you give people the benefit of the doubt, see the best in them, and refuse to give up on someone you love.Because you are the kind of person who apologizes to keep the peace and stays to fix what's broken.Those are not flaws. They are some of the finest qualities a person can have. They simply landed in the wrong hands - and were used against you, deliberately and systematically, by someone who recognized exactly what they were looking at.In Knowing DARVO: Why The Abuser Chose You, I'll pull back the curtain on the selection process - the screening, the testing, the early moments you never knew were auditions.Drawing on my own ten years inside this pattern, I'll show you exactly how abusers identify a target, how your childhood taught you to mistake chaos for love, and how the very traits that made you a victim will one day make you an extraordinary partner to someone who deserves you.This is not a book about what was wrong with you.It's a book about what was always right with you - and how to make sure it never falls into the wrong hands again.